It’s that time, again. Heart-shaped candy, assorted bouquets and sentimental cards are plentiful, but not a source of happiness for everyone.

“The emphasis of Valentine’s Day is on romance, rather than relationships,” said Charlotte Shoup Olsen, Kansas State University Research and Extension family life specialist. “Even if your love life hasn’t lived up to your expectations, you needn’t have a dismal day.”

Dwelling on what you don’t have isn’t likely to make it happen. The chance of meeting someone and building a friendship that evolves into a romantic relationship can be more likely to happen to people who focus on the positive.

“Think about it: Would you rather approach a person with a smile and pleasant expression? Or someone who’s unhappy?” said Olsen, who offered these tips for celebrating Valentine’s Day without a romantic partner:

• Don’t dwell on one day. Valentine’s Day is just a day, with 24 hours — like all the rest.

• Think about your life and what you most like about it. Do you have good friends? A job you enjoy? Loving parents? A favorite aunt, uncle or neighbor? Church group? Exercise buddy? Enjoy your home? Your pets? Your hobbies?

• Make a list of the positives and the special people in your life. Now, think about sending a valentine to the folks who make your life enjoyable — and tell them why. It will make you feel great to let each one know why you think they’re special.

• If you like flowers or candy, treat yourself to a bouquet or favorite sweet.

• If you like to eat out, call a friend and eat out together, or organize a potluck and game or movie night for friends who also are alone on a holiday. Enjoy the company and the fun.

Relationships are precious, but the value of our relationships with others isn’t restricted to romance. For a happy Valentine’s Day, take some time to celebrate all of your relationships.

Linda K. Beech is Ellis County

Extension agent for family and

consumer sciences.